The Flower of Your Dreams

Imagine your dream as a flower that you’d like to cultivate. It must be planted, nurtured, given plenty of sunlight and water and allowed to grow. Now imagine putting that young flower in the soil and promptly stomping on it, blocking all sunlight that might reach it and placing a heavy tarp over it. This is what we tend to do with our dreams.

Why do we do this with something that means to much to us? One of the main reasons is our firm faith in the negative beliefs we have about reaching our dreams. So often, we stand in our own way and prevent the very things we want in our lives from coming to us.

Let’s say you want to marry your soulmate. That desire represents the young flower of a dream you’d like to cultivate, so you place it in the soil. You smile at it and suddenly begin thinking of all the reasons why you’re not likely to get married. “I’m too old.” You stomp on the flower. “I’m too fat.” You stomp on it again. “Nobody would want to live with me.” You drag a large piece of furniture over to block the sunlight. “I don’t want to deal with someone else’s baggage.” You lay the heavy tarp over the flower. “All my past relationships failed.” You stomp the flower again. “I might was well get used to living the rest of my life alone.”

Maybe you want more money. You place the dream flower in the soil and smile at it but then think of all the reasons that goal is unrealistic. “I don’t have the education for that.” You stomp the flower. “I’d probably have to go back to school.” You stomp it again. “I’m too old to go back to school. Plus, I don’t have the time” You block the sunlight. “I might as well just get used to living on what I make now.” You lay the heavy tarp over the flower.

Why is it so much easier to believe against the things we want than to believe in them? It almost seems as though we’d rather not have what we want. Unfortunately, most of us were told at an extremely early age that we can’t have the things we want. We’ve been told our dreams are flights of fancy. We’ve heard about how unfair and how much of a struggle life is and, since at that age, we had no other reference point to compare this information to, we accepted these ideas as truth. Once an idea is accepted the search for corroborating evidence begins. Interestingly, no matter what belief we have, positive or negative, we can find evidence to support it and we will actually go out of our way to do so. Consider this, whether you agree or disagree with what I’ve said so far, are you not searching your mind for reasons to support your position? Why aren’t you searching for evidence to support the opposite? Is it because there isn’t any…or is it because you hold so strongly to your point of view?

As long as we continue to accept our old ways of thinking, nothing will change. Question the limiting beliefs that so frequently surface when you want to fulfill a dream. A very useful question to ask is, “What do I have to believe is true in order to feel the way I do?” Using the examples given in this article, you would have to believe that no one would marry you at your age or weight or that you’re tool old to go back to school or even that you have to go to school to make more money in the first place. All of these are limiting beliefs. No matter what you want to accomplish in the world, someone has done it and if one person can do it, you can, too.

Treat your dreams like delicate flowers. Plant them, tend to them with loving care and watch them grow!

Jason Hundley

Categories: Uncategorized  |  Tags: dreams, flower, goals, law of attraction, limiting beliefs, self sabotage, subconscious mind  |  No Comments »